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Torn Between Blood Lines and Religion

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , on April 29, 2009 by MidnightSun

Can you be torn between religion and blood lines? I have a sister who is a lesbian and the rest of my family is highly religious. In their religion, marriage is supposed to be between and man and a woman. I am all for that but I love my sister too much to be like some other people in society who frown upon same-sex relationships and marriages. I know that when I get married that I want to be married to a man and that is my choice. If my sister wants to be with another woman who truly loves her and wants to be with her for the rest of my life, who am I to judge her? In my religion, it’s wrong and it’s like that in most religions. I am wondering, am I wrong for accepting her for who she is and what lifestyle she has chosen for herself? Should I put my religion before my sister? Can’t I have it both ways?

This is a very touchy subject, especially in my family. Everyone knows that she is gay but just chooses to not talk about it. They will talk about others who have chosen that same lifestyle, like in our church, or friends of the family in front of her. I don’t know if she feels as awkward as I do about it. I love her regardless of what or who she is. At first, I figured it out for myself because when our mom found out, she told her not to tell me, like I wasn’t grown up enough to handle it and at the time I was 16 or 17 years old. Just because I’m choosing to be straight, I’m not gonna preach to her about what she has already been taught. It is not my place to tell her that. I want to be apart of her life and I’m not gonna shut her out because she is gay.

Me and my sister have been closer than ever now she has come back home. I want her to be able to talk to me like another grown woman, not like a little sister. She can only talk to a few people about her lifestyle and I want to be one of those people. I don’t want her to feel like I don’t want to hear about it because sometimes I don’t, lol, but I want her to be able to open up to me. It bothers me when I can’t defend her when she’s not around because I am worried the kind of reaction that I will get from other family members. When the topic comes up, I just get up and quietly leave the room and vent out my frustrations on a pillow or something. This is something that has been bothering me for awhile and I was just wondering…is blood thicker than religion as well as water?